True Love Doesn't Fade

Some people said, "Love is everything before marriage, but nothing after marriage." Others said, "Love is in lots before marriage, and is lost after marriage." What do you think of these?

Before marriage, we will do all we can to impress, and to make our future spouse feel special, to build him or her up, and to cater to his or her every need. We will do everything possible to develop love and to strengthen love.

After marriage, many of us will take our marital relationship for granted. Love will no longer play the major and the only part in our relationship. Now we will talk more about responsibilities, commitments, and hard works for the sake of the family. Now our love to our spouse will become secondary.

Some said, "Love fades after marriage". That is why many are reluctant to get married. They want a steady and unfailing love; they can't afford to lose a moment of love. Some married couples are also contemplating not to have children too early; they want to enjoy their love for one another, and not sacrifice it for the sake of the family.

Family's future is an important step in marriage. Some rush into it and try to have as many children as possible. Others do it slowly; they build up, strengthen the family bond, and enhance the family status in society.

Love after marriage is difficult; everyday has become a test of love for one another. It is time to be responsible to yourself and your family. It is time to help and assist one another for the betterment and development of the family. Family comes first, so is love for one another.

I don't believe love fades after marriage; I believe it will be strengthened all the more. Though we don't talk much about love, or express it in a formal and explicit way, but it is always there, and alive.

Some people need a family crisis to realize that they are still in love. But I don't think we need to come to that critical stage. But I do believe we need to find times to express our love to one another. Love is practical and goes beyond words after marriage.

True love never fade; true love lasts forever, even after marriage.

Seek True Love

I wonder if anyone of us can precisely pinpoint when he or she falls in love.

Some believe in love at first sight. They meet someone for the first time and instantly fall in love. Nothing else matters. No one else matters. They will sacrifice and risk giving up everything just for his or her sake.

Some don't enter into the love affair lightly. They take quite a while before entering the love zone. They desire to be friends and not lovers. They spend much time together to share and to foster better understanding and trust. They only get seriously in love when they perceive that they definitely can make a better life together.

Some dare not venture into the love zone. They just cannot let go of their prejudices and distrust. They just cannot stop criticizing and judging others. No one really meets their standards and expectations. And they just cannot share their lives with anyone, not even their immediate family.

But I believe we should all enter into the love zone. The ability and the readiness to love one another is a gift of God often neglected.

It is a fact that love is often misused and abused. Some just love to take advantages of those who eagerly want to love. To them, love is a possession. They feel that the more they are being loved, their lives will be more satisfying and fulfilling. They play with others' feelings and emotions for a selfish and momentary gain and they cause many heartaches, heartbreaks, and frustrations.

But true love needs not be like that. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, and will be. True love is loving and living with person through ups and downs, good and bad and ugly. True love is one of those rare things that some believe does not exist, while others have lived it and know better.

Some find true love in the person they love. Others sacrifice all their true love for others with no returns.

But that's it. God has given true love to be shared and cherished.

Seek True Love while it can be found.