Monday, December 27, 2010

Dealing With People Who Snore

How do you sleep with a snoring man in a small room?

It maybe that you are put there together with him or her, or he or she is your spouse, your parent, sibling, relative or friend who shares your room.

Will you wake him or her up?

Will you get out of the room and sleep somewhere else?

Will you take sleeping pills to make you sleep?

Some say we must get people to roll on their side or stomach, to help with their breathing and to stop their snoring.

Changing their sleeping position will surely help. But what if they snore again after some times?

Some prefer to use ear plugs. These are memory foam rubber, and very soft to put inside the ears.

You will be amazed that you can't hear a thing after you put them on. And you can sleep soundly after that.

Good ear plugs not only help you solve snoring problem. You can also use it to block out the noise of people walking, chatting, shouting, crying etc just by putting them on.

This will ensure you to do your own work in your own sweet time.

So, what should you do when sleeping with a snoring man in a small room?

You need not worry.

Good ear plugs will do.

Have a nice day.

Sunday, December 19, 2010

Your Friends Use You

Do you have friends who used to eat together with you, yet never once settle the bill? Do you think it is a problem to you? What would you do to solve this problem?

It is good to know that we all have friends, and that we enjoy going out and eating out with our friends.

Sometimes we use the same vehicle; sometimes we make plan to meet together. It doesn't matter the place, so long as we have good friends and nice food together.

It is always fun and exciting to eat together with friends. We have a lot to talk; we jokes and laughs and have fun; we share and sort out various problems; and we have a good laugh to release tension. It is just very nice to go together with friends. Sometimes, it surprises me how much we can eat when together.

Sometimes we pay our own bill; sometimes we pay everyone's bill. It doesn't matter, since we belong together. It surprises me why we can be so kind and generous to our friends.

Over the years, we have cultivated more friends and more close friends.

Some of us remain generous, ever ready to treat our friends.

Some of us have become more cautious; money doesn't come easy when you have family.

Nevertheless we continue to have friends and give treats to friends.

But, over time, we realize certain friends never pay, not once.

We talk and joke about it.

Some of us feel it's okay; we smile and laugh away happily.

Some of us are annoyed; we are frustrated and angry, wanting to make him or her pay.


Now back to you.

Is it okay if your friends never pay?

What would you do to make him or her pay?

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

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Tuesday, December 7, 2010

How Would You Live Your Life

They said it doesn't matter how long they live as long as life is happy.
They said it doesn't matter how long they live as long as life is healthy.
They said it doesn't matter how long they live as long as life is meaningful.
In short, it is not how long you live your life, but how you live your life that matters.


They said there is no point in living longer if life is difficult;
Or if you are always sick and weak.
Or if you are always bored and stressful.
In short, there is no point to live longer if you don’t have a good life.


Some said good deeds are important!
Good deeds will be remembered!
If we are good and helpful,
People will love us and talk about our good life.
People will remember us even after our death.


So what do you think?
Do you prefer a happy and healthy life?
Do you prefer a useful and helpful life?
Do you prefer a meaningful and purposeful life?


Some of us live to the ripe old age;
Some in the prime of our life;
And some died very early.
But the issue remains: how would we live our life?


Life can be difficult sometimes;
Life can be lousy sometimes;
Life can be sick sometimes;
And life can be confusing sometimes.
How would you live your life?

Saturday, December 4, 2010

Away From Home

Working away from home can be very miserable sometimes.

Loneliness, fear, and depression may accompany your life.

Here you will miss your family, relatives and friends;

And here you will have to carry yourself well.

Of course, you may have a wide circle of friends to share and take away loneliness.

But sometimes, it is not that simple.

Some friends are only good in teasing and playing;

They speak freely on every topic without restraint,

And they are immoral and ruthless most of the time.

Mixing regularly with them may help to alleviate loneliness and depression,

But it's definitely not a good long-term solution.

In situation like this, you really need a true friend to share your thoughts, your vision and mission, your dreams, your aims, your strategies, etc.

Sometimes, you may have to change your circle of friends or learn to categorize your friend.

You may have to change some of your hobbies and interests.

You may go online, browsing interesting websites and involve in some instant messages.

You may go to movie or concert to relax and find your comfort.

Or if you prefer, you may go window shopping and outdoor dining.

But ultimately you need a true friend to confide.

Have you found yours?

Be patient. It may take time.

But, believe me, you really need friend;

A physical friend who is there ready to help, to share, and to love.

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Family and Relatives

Are you close with your family and relatives?
Sure. Some we are very close, some we are friends, and some we greet once a while.
Do you spend time with your family and relatives?
Sure. Some we get along very well, some we can talk on many topics, and some we show much respect.
Do you come together during festive seasons and important functions?
Sure. Some we will attend no matter how far we are, some we will attend if we are around and not so busy; and some when we have no problem at home.
Do you love your family and relatives?
Sure. Some we love from our heart, some we take good care of, and some we greet and honor.
They are our people; we must love one another, and honor our family name!
So, how close are we with our family and relatives? Oh, very close.
And how much time do we spend with them? Every time we meet.
And how often do we come together? Oh, very often, when we are around.
And how much do we love one another? Oh, so very much.
Oh! We must honor the family name!
All for the eyes of the public!
All for the family name!
And so we live and have our being.
We are very close with one another.
We spend much time together.
We always meet.
And we love one another.
All for the eyes of the public!
All for the family name!

Thursday, November 25, 2010

How I Lost Weight

I told my friends I was too fat.
For years I had struggled with my weight.
Please help me, I want to lose weight!

Some friends told me fasting is good.
They talked about abstaining from food, especially meat.
They talked about taking various vitamin supplements,
Drinking plenty of water, teas and natural juices,
And eating only fruits and vegetables.
Some even emphasized tea fast,
Which revolved around herbal and detoxifying teas;
Some preferred juice fast,
Claiming that it could even help quit smoking!

I looked at them, very confused.
I shook my head, I don't like fasting.
Fasting means no food no drink!
And if I fast for too long,
It will weaken my system; I will die!
No, no...
Fasting is definitely not good for me.
I want to do this the safe way.

Some friends came by and said,
Just concentrate on enough exercising,
And eat in smaller portions every time you are hungry.
To these, I nodded my head in vigorous approval!

Exercising will definitely cut out carbohydrates and high fats;
Eating in smaller portion can definitely satisfy my hunger.
I thought through and decided on what I wanted to do.
And the best exercise for me was walking.
So, I walked about 5000-10000 steps every day,
Whenever I was free,
And when it was not raining.

It was not a slow paced walk;
I kept a steady fast pace,
It allowed me to sweat more,
And burnt more calories.
And I changed my diet too!

And here I am,
After 3 mouths,
I have lost more than 10kg!

Saturday, November 20, 2010


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Monday, November 15, 2010

Christmas Shopping -

Christmas Season is around the corner!
Here are some quick tips on Christmas shopping 2010
  • Look for your product, not for a worker.
    - It is not difficult to find what you want!

  • If you have to ask, at least know what you’re asking for.
    - And don’t ask for their opinion!

  • Don’t call the workers by their name.
    - Not until they offer you their name!

  • Open your eyes. Read the signs. Follow the directions.
    - Don’t misuse your time by asking too many questions!

  • Put things back where you found them.
    - Retail workers are not maids. They have enough to do without cleaning up your messes!
Merry Christmas!

Sunday, November 7, 2010


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Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Believe It, You Are Special!

I believe all of us are born beautiful, handsome and special.

I believe no one in the right frame of mind will deny it.

I believe it is our own bad perceptions that make us think otherwise.

I believe if we are fair to ourselves, we need to look at a big mirror some times.

I bought a big mirror in years past and put it up in my dining room.

And I couldn’t stop admiring myself in my big mirror.

And I can’t resist doing it now!

I may be fat but I still look alright.

I may be plain but I’m still good looking.

I may have a seasoned face with deep-set eyes, but I never once thought I am ugly.

Ugliness is in the eyes and mind of the beholder.

And I can’t stop people from telling me that I am fat, ugly, stubborn and old fashioned.

But I can always tell myself that I look fine, handsome, kind, and trendy.

Standing in front of a big mirror is really fun and good for the heart.

And it wouldn’t take long before I realize that I am okay and alright.

I take a deep breath in front of the mirror.

I tell myself to believe and trust in myself.

Soon I begin to feel peaceful and happy.

Bad perceptions, misconceptions, and outright disinformation can really kill the spirit as we go on in life.

And they must not be brought in to interfere with our journey of life.

No matter what happens, no matter what others may say, I believe and still believe that I’m handsome and special.

And I’m not going to let bad perceptions, misconceptions, or disinformation to interfere with my life.

I believe and continue to hold on to my beliefs.

I know soon enough I will be happy, as I stand in front of my big mirror and admire my fat body.


Friday, October 29, 2010

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Saturday, October 23, 2010

Guide To A Better Life

Randy Pausch, 47 yrs old, a computer Science lecturer from Mellon University.

He died of pancreatic cancer in 2008.

He wrote a book 'The last lecture' before then, one of the bestsellers in 2007.

In a letter to his wife Jai and his children, Dylan, Logan, and Chloe, he wrote this beautiful "guide to a better life" for his wife and children to follow.

May you be blessed by his insight.

Points On How To Improve Your Life

  1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
  3. Don't over do; keep your limits.
  4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does.
  5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
  6. Dream more while you are awake.
  7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
  8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
  9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
  10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
  11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
  12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
  13. Smile and laugh more.
  14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
  1. Call your family often.
  2. Each day give something good to others.
  3. Forgive everyone for everything.
  4. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
  5. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
  6. What other people think of you is none of your business.
  7. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.
  1. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
  2. GOD heals everything.
  3. Do the right things.
  4. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
  5. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
  6. The best is yet to come.
  7. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
  8. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
  9. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.

While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with, people you play with, people you work with, and people you live with.

Not only will it enrich your life, but also that of those around you.

Saturday, October 16, 2010

Date With A Woman

Someone sent me this story. I was really touched and I want to pass it on.

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out for dinner and a movie. She said, "I love you but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you."

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my mother, who has been a widow for 19 years.

But the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

“What's wrong, are you well?” she asked.

My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

“I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you,” I responded, “Just the two of us.”

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.”

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous.

When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she too seemed to be nervous about our date.

She waited in the door with her coat on.

She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary.

She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's.

“I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed,” she said, as she got into the car. “They can't wait to hear about our meeting.”

We went to a restaurant that although not elegant, was very nice and cozy.

My mother took my arm as if she were the first lady.

After we sat down, I had to read the menu, large print.

Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw mom sitting there staring at me.

A nostalgic smile was on her lips.

“It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said.

“Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation, nothing extraordinary, but catching up on recent events of each other's life.

We talked so much that we missed the movie.

As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.”

I agreed.

“How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home.

“Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack.

It happened so suddenly that I didn't have time to do anything for her.

Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined.

An attached note said: ‘I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there. But nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, my son.'

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I love you!” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve.

Nothing in life is more important than God and our family.

Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till 'some other time.'

Pass this along to everyone: with an aging parent, to a child, to an adult, to anyone with a parent, and most importantly, to someone you truly love.

Friday, October 8, 2010

Finally He Stands Up

He is a retarded and autistic child.

His father is in the last and final stage of liver cancer.

His mother is no more; probably couldn’t bear to see her son’s condition of suffering.

He is now 21, a young adult.......

He has lost her mother since he was 8 years old.......

His father is his only hope of support.....

His father teaches him, patiently without complaining, murmuring, or giving up hope.

But sometimes he just can’t follow instruction......

And sometimes he can’t remember his direction.......

He needs his father to cook for him.......

He needs his father to change his cloth.......

He needs his father to accompany him most of the time.......

He just cannot live without his father.......

His father seeks everywhere for help.......

But his son is too old for orphanage.......

Too young for old folk home.......

And there is no other institution wanting to take him.

His father is at his wit's end......

Then a private welfare institution comes to help......

It is a great moment......

The father sews a note on every cloth of his son regarding his son's identity.

The father teaches the son the various daily routines in life......

The learning process is slow, with much pain and sorrow......

The father's sickness worsens, but he continues to help the son........

The father finally dies, and the son knows not what has happened.......

The son is finally on his own......

Learning to do everything on his own.....

It isn’t easy for him.......

But he finally is standing on his own feet now.......

.......Thanks to the father.

Saturday, October 2, 2010

They Are Not Merely Children!

Children are always brimming with anticipation and excitement. There are always things to learn and discover; there are always people to see and meet; there are always ideas to share and develop; there are always skill and ability to convey and express; and there are always feelings and desires to belong and build together.

Through observing, studying, and working with children, we learn many perfect lessons.

We learn of their never-say-die and never-say-quit spirit; we see their persistence, dedication, patience, achievability and search ability. We wonder why we give up quickly and lose hope so easily. A little more time, effort, willpower and precision is all we need to live, survive, thrive and prosper in this difficult and complex world.

We learn of their fighting, winning and team spirit; we see them coming together as one, cheering, spurring on, encouraging and whooping one another. We wonder why we can’t work as a team; be of help and assistance to one another. We tear each other down and apart. A little more kind, loving, caring, and tolerant is all we need to help and prosper one another.

We learn of their pioneering and enterprising spirit; we see them coping with adversity, adapting to changes and challenges, and remained focused and positive in their outlook and attitude. We wonder why we are so scared and decided not to try and venture. We refuse to step out of our comfort zone and we discourage others from doing so. A little consideration, contemplation, reflection, and deliberation is all we need to be more outgoing and daring in life.

Look at our children. They walk and talk together; they play and work together; they venture and try new things together; they laugh and cry together; they sing and dance together. Together we stand – a simple and powerful statement. A rude and arrogant loser and loner will never learn the joy, the pleasure, the comfort, the benefits and the need of coming together.

Look at our children, examine them, study them, and work with them.......

They are not merely children!

Monday, September 27, 2010

Some Rain Thoughts

It was raining heavily this morning. In fact, it had been raining since the previous evening.

I was sitting in the classroom, feeling cold and watching the rain, and deep it thought; the students were busy doing their studies, concentrating and flipping the pages, getting ready for their exam.

I had had a good sleep the previous night after the hectic workdays and the monotonous routines, probably because of the cold weather and the fact that I was totally worn out.

I love rain; rain always helps me to settle down, I thought to myself; somehow many things come to a standstill whenever it rains, I chuckled.

I had a close look at the road; it was wet with heavy drops of water, but it was clean and quiet; it really deserved a good rest after hours of heavy traffic moving about.

I looked at the trees swaying slowly with the cold wind, down an undulating and luscious green landscape on a steep slope.

The cold wind woke me up. I walked around the class, admiring the students as they did their last minute preparation for the exam.

I love the rain. Rain always slows things down, making me wanting to do things a little slower with deeper and better considerations.

I love the rain. Rain always calms me down, making me less emotional and less enthusiastic, but more thoughtful and rational.

I love the rain. Rain always brings along inspirations and new ideas, helping me to be more creative and able to see things in a broad new light, and discover new and better solutions to my problems and troubles.

I enjoy watching the rain patiently waters the field; it gives me great joy and happiness to see its tender care and love.

I enjoy watching the rushing of rain water down the big drains; it excites me and gives me great thrill to know that bad memories, phobias, and stress can be gone for a moment.

I love the rain. Rain always gives me hope for a new beginning. Everything is renewed and looks cool. It brings along a new day with a new meaning every time it falls.

It was two hours later.

The rain had finally stopped.

The bullfrogs had stopped croaking. The insects had started buzzing and chirping.

Pools and puddles of water were everywhere on the football field.

It is a new beginning for everything.

For a moment everyone forgets about the past and concentrates on what to do next.

It is always a new day every time the rain falls.

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

If Only I Had Tried Harder

I was sitting quietly in one corner pondering about my life when I decided to write my wish list, and I was surprised to know there were so many of them:

I wish I can do things better and do better things;

I wish I can be more considerate and kind to other;

I wish I can be more careful and watchful when dealing with difficult decisions;

I wish I can think and act fast, and complete my works and studies on time;

I wish I can be more efficient and organized in everything I do.

I wish I can be more caring and loving towards my family, relatives and friends;

I wish I can be more careful in my speech and action;

I wish I can have more friends and fewer enemies;

I wish I’m happier, healthier, and less stressful;

I wish I can improve myself by leaps and bounces;

I wish to learn things faster and smarter and be more determined to see things happened;

I wish to be a useful and helpful individual;

I wish I can have fewer problems and worries.......

I was surprised to know that I had more to write.

I thought I was contented and happy with my life, only to realize that I had many things that I wanted to do.

I continued to jot down everything I wanted in my wish list.......

Over the years I have become less ambitious.

Over the years I have become more contented with my life.

I don’t desire to have many things but I seek to understand everything that I have.

If only I have done things better.......

If only I have been more helpful.......

If only I have been more careful and considerate.......

I would have led a better life today.......

I would have fewer problems and worries today.......

And I would be more confident to make my every move.

Sometimes I wonder just how much time I have wasted in my life.......

If only I had tried harder.

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

50 Life Lessons

Someone sent me Regina Brett's 50 life lessons and I pass it on.
  1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

  2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

  3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

  4. Don‘t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

  5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

  6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

  7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

  8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

  9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

  10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

  11. Make peace with your past so it won‘t screw up the present.

  12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

  13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

  14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

  15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.

  16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.

  17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.

  18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.

  19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

  20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don‘t take no for an answer.

  21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

  22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

  23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

  24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

  25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

  26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words "In five years, will this matter?"

  27. Always choose life.

  28. Forgive everyone everything.

  29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

  30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

  31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

  32. Your job won‘t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

  33. Believe in miracles.

  34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

  35. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

  36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

  37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.

  38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.

  39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

  40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else‘s, we’d grab ours back.

  41. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

  42. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

  43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

  44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

  45. The best is yet to come.

  46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

  47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

  48. If you don't ask, you don't get.

  49. Yield.

  50. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

Thursday, September 9, 2010

Learning To Be Happy

They said we will be happy if we have something to hope for.

And so we pray for those who need tender loving care.....

And we pray for those who have great hatred to have a forgiving spirit.....

And we pray for those who give up all hope to find purpose and meaning in life.....

And we pray for those who hesitate and procrastinate to live life to the fullest and continue to chase after their dreams.....

It is just not right when there is no hope and joy in life.


They said we will be happy if we have someone we love.

And so we love our family and take good care of them.....

And we love our relatives and are happy to discover new ones.....

And we love our neighbors and friends and desire to understand, respect, and help one another.....

And we love our colleagues and the communities at large and do what we can to help.....

It is just not right when there is no love and joy in life.


They said we will be happy if we remember our successful experiences in the past.

They help us to be positive and upbeat about life.....

They help us to be enthusiastic and fired up about life.....

They help us to be optimistic and spread good cheer about life.....

They help us to be appreciative and grateful about life.....

It is just not right when there is no appreciation and joy in life.


And so I know when and how I can be happy –

When there is hope.....

When there is love.....

When there is appreciation.....

And when there is.....more.....

Saturday, September 4, 2010

The Journey Home

It was 3 on a Friday afternoon.

I had just completed my Adgitize and Entrecard clicks.

It was time to pick up the children from the Airport; they were returning home for their holidays.

I filled up the petrol tank and had the tyres pressure checked and balanced.

Then we had a last minute hunch and thought and were ready to start our journey.

The morning session had been rather relaxing, since I had less teaching periods and shorter teaching hours because of the fasting month. Nonetheless, teaching is always a sacred and noble profession, and so I continued to occupy my time with productive tasks and activities.

Feeling rather tired, I shrugged my shoulders, rolled my eyes, stroked and patted my neck a little, took deep and long breaths, and tried to push away the burden of the day as the journey continued. With the music and conversation on, a little laughter and humor now and then, and enjoying the beautiful scenery along the way, the day seemed to look fresh and pretty again. Family gathering and anticipation can always be a good cure for work pressure.

The journey was really smooth and relaxing, but I was filled with apprehension. I had the radiator cleaned and the thermostat replaced after an overheated engine a few days ago. But my heart still throbbed like never before and my eyes kept monitoring the water meter while driving. It was half an hour later that my body, mind, and heart could settle down.

We arrived an hour before the flight arrived. We had 2 KFC dinner plate sets and enjoyed watching people. The journey was a venture and a success, and the self-treat well deserved. We laughed and smiled and had a good time. Deep inside, we thanked God for answering our prayer.

The reunion was a sweet and joyous moment. Then we were ready for our way home. The radiator was still full to the top, we smiled peacefully.

The journey home was smooth though the dusk was deepening. We arrived home after 7 p.m. and continued our happy time.

It was a day of journey, discovery, and adventure; a journey of learning and appreciating; a journey of patience and humble discovery. Thank God for the experience that I will try not to forget.

Sunday, August 29, 2010

Happy Independence Day

It is nearing the end of August.

My country, Malaysia, is celebrating its 53rd Independence Day in two days time.

With great anticipation and excitement, with heartfelt thank and appreciation, every Malaysian is waiting for the Day!

Happy Merdeka Day!

Happy Independence Day!

Happy Malaysia Independence Day!


Much has been written and said about Malaysia.

It is a beautiful country with its hospitable people and amazing landscape, and its multiple customs, traditions, cultures, races and religions, and its fantastic food and interesting people........

Welcome to Malaysia and enjoy your trip here.

I love my Malaysia.

It’s my dream to see it become one of the safest, cleanest, busiest, attractive and popular countries in the world.

It’s my desire to see Malaysia become one of the popular and lively tourist spots of the world.

Happy Merdeka (Independence) Day.

Come and celebrate the Independence Day with us.

And experience the difference today.

Happy Independence Day

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Piece Of Cake

I received the following story through an email and I decided to pass it on.

Sometimes we ask ourselves: What did I do to deserve this? Why does God let these things happen to me?

Here is the explanation...

A daughter tells her mother how everything is going wrong for her; she probably failed her exam, or her boyfriend has just dumped her for her best friend.

In times so sad, a good mother knows just the thing to cheer up her daughter...

"I will make a delicious cake." In that moment the mother hugged her daughter and walked her to the kitchen, while her daughter attempted to smile.

While the mother prepared the utensils and ingredients, her daughter sat across from her at the counter.

Her mother asks, "Sweetheart, would you like a piece of cake?"

Her daughter replies, "Sure, mom, you know how I love cake."

"Alright..." the mother said, "Drink some of this cooking oil."

Shocked, the daughter responded, "What? No way!"

"How about a couple of raw eggs?"

To this the daughter responded, "Are you kidding?"

"How about a little flour?"

"No, mom, I’ll be sick!"

The mother responded, "All of these things are uncooked and taste bad, but if you put them together... they make a delicious cake!"

"God works the same way. When we ask ourselves why does he make us go through these difficult times, we don’t realize the what or where these events may bring us. Only He knows and he will not let us fall. We don’t need to settle for the raw ingredients. Trust in Him and see something fantastic come about!"

"God loves us so much. He send us flowers every spring. He makes the sun rise every morning. And anytime you need to talk, He is there to listen!"

"He can live anywhere in the universe, but He chooses to live in your heart!"

"Believe it and your day will be a piece of cake!"

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

An Ordinary Man

An ordinary man with an ordinary car and an ordinary house, and that is what I am.

There are many other ordinary men with ordinary cars and ordinary houses.

There are many more with extraordinary cars and extraordinary houses.

Then, there are also extraordinary men with extraordinary houses and extraordinary cars.

These are no surprise to me.

But then there are extraordinary men with a very ordinary house and a very ordinary car. And he or she is very contented.

And this surprises me.


There are more to life than material comforts and physical pleasure.

There are many worthwhile pursuits and ways of life.

There are scholarly, academic and intellectual pursuits.

There are recreational, leisure and outdoor pursuits.

There are communitarian pursuits.

There are agricultural pursuits.

There are artistic and creative pursuits.

There are spiritual and religious pursuits.

In fact, there are numerous legitimate and honorable pursuits in life that is worth having.


A man with a very ordinary car and a very ordinary house needn’t feel very ordinary.

After all, he or she is very special in God's eyes.

And in fact, there is no ordinary man.

Thursday, August 12, 2010

A Living Friendship

How many flowers end up at the funeral home?

How many flowers did the dead people enjoy while they were alive?

I would rather have a rose and some kind words from a friend while I'm here, than a whole truck load when I'm gone. Just see how many bouquets we can end up with!


Good friends are wonderful gifts of God to men.

Happiness will keep us sweet,

Trials will make us strong,

Sorrows will keep us human,

Failures will make us humble,

And success will keep us glowing,

Only friends can keep us going!

But see how many friends we have got today!


Thank you my friends for being a part of my life, whether you are a reason, a season or a lifetime.

May God bless you with many more good friends.

Friday, August 6, 2010

A Magic Cure For Losers

I received the following story through an email and I decided to pass it on.

The next time when we feel like GOD can't use us, we just remember....

Noah was a drunk,

Abraham was too old,

Isaac was a daydreamer,

Jacob was a liar,

Leah was ugly,

Joseph was abused,

Moses had a stuttering problem,

Gideon was afraid,

Samson had long hair and was a womanizer,

Rahab was a prostitute,

Jeremiah and Timothy were too young,

David had an affair and was a murderer,

Elijah was suicidal,

Isaiah preached naked,

Jonah ran from God,

Naomi was a widow,

Job went bankrupt,

Peter denied Christ 3 times,

The Disciples fell asleep while praying,

Martha worried about everything,

Mary Magdalene was promiscuous,

The Samaritan woman was divorced, more than once...,

Zaccheus was too small,

Paul was too religious,

Timothy had an ulcer,

And Lazarus was dead!


Now! we have no more excuses!

God can use us to our full potential.

If God has forgiven our sins, then we should forgive ourselves too.

Be encouraged to use our full potential for the Kingdom of God.

Have a nice day.

Sunday, August 1, 2010

Come To Shore

Many a time, we are being swept along in life, and are powerless to do anything to change its course; we are dragged along by life’s events, occurrences and circumstances.

There are times when we decide to put up a fight, not willing to accept what is laid before us. Sometimes, we do succeed in having our way; but sometimes, we are like a fish being caught, waiting to be brought to shore and face our end.

Some of us are overwhelmed by the burdens and demands of life. Everything needs money and everything is a priority; everyone just knows when to ask for money when we are broke. Life really knows how to kick us while we’re down, making us unable to stand up again.

I have a friend who was once very successful in life, but is now deeply saddened by the news of his father’s death. His father had been his ardent defender and staunch supporter.

Everyone forms a support system very early in life; our successes and failures in life have a great deal to do with our family, relatives, neighbors and friends around us. Life is never just an everyday struggle on our own; we need their prayers, advice, help, love and moral supports. But when everything is taken away, it can and will be a very sad thing.

When we are left destitute by fate or failure, often we will give up on our dreams and be like everyone else. We will be struck by the realities of life, seeking only to struggle to live and survive.

Like the fishermen struggling in the sea for survival, we need to come back to shore, build our family, meet our relatives and friends, adapt to new environments, have a new lifestyle, and try to search and discover the real man in us.

Life is not just what we give and provide for people around us; it is also how we live, help and learn together, making our world a better place to live and enjoy, and our life more meaningful and fruitful.

Come to shore, my friends, everyone needs you, and have a nice weekend.

Monday, July 26, 2010

Toothpick Can Kill

It was a Sunday morning.

After the church service, we went shopping in a big supermarket.

I put my wife and daughter down and looked for a parking space. Surprisingly I could find one easily, probably because of the nature of the parking space, which was narrow and rather difficult to park properly.

I went into the supermarket and scouted around for the things I needed while looking for my wife and daughter. While turning a corner, I saw a middle aged man with two active children. The children were rather naughty. The man looked rather impatient with the children. Then I saw him taking out a round and hard toothpick from a shirt pocket and began to poke the children on the hands and feet. I saw the children weeping in pain and began to protest. More poking with the toothpick and then he pinched their ears hard. Then the children begged. Surprisingly there was no screaming and crying aloud from the children.

My heart was cut; I could feel the sharp pains that the children took. Poking children with a round and hard toothpick with very sharp ends! It was hair rising and I had a shiver on my neck and back.

I presumed the man was the father or uncle. I just couldn’t comprehend why he did that.

Look at the innocent children, 3-4 years old… what kind of scars will they bear at such a young age? Is that a good example to follow?

Where was the mother? Would she tolerate it in silence?

I lost my appetite for shopping and wandered off in anger.

It took me quite a while to cool down.

I related the incident to my wife. We shook our heads; it was terrible!

What if he had poked the children on the vital parts of the body?

Did he know that toothpick can kill?

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

The Leaking Roof

There is a leak in the tile roof; water is dripping down fast every time when the strong wind brings in the rain.

We had placed a rusty tin directly underneath to receive the drips; it has been there for almost a year now.

Several attempts had been made to climb up the roof to search for the source of the leak.

The house is now 10 years old and the roof is stained with algae, lichens, and fungus, and some grasses brought by the birds.

We discovered that there are some broken and displaced tiles.

A few attempts had been made to rectify the problem but none of them successful.

It is becoming increasingly stressful to behold the problem.

There is a passing suggestion that we change all the roof tiles.

But that will cost too much and doesn’t guarantee to solve the problem.

Sometimes some problems will just live with us for a very long time; it is just impossible to do away with. The only thing to do is to wait until the problem disappears or when situation continues to worsen. But it is just not easy to bear the circumstances.

Anyway, the water leaking problem only happens when there is torrential rainfall, and this seldom happens except during the rainy season, I console and amuse myself.

But the fact that it is there when I am enjoying watching the rain in the front porch often give me some uneasiness.

Just have to be patient, I told myself and sighed.

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Heartfelt Photos With Meanings

I received this from an e-mail:

Here are some heartfelt photos that truly do describe the words and their real meanings.












Be kinder than necessary,
Because everyone you meet
Is fighting some kind of battle.

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Daring The Rain

It was raining heavily this morning.

The wind was strong, sending a cold shiver shooting through me.

But the sky was clear and there was a beautiful rainbow.

A clear weather after the rain was expected.

And that is what I like to start my day.

I was gazing at my two pots of bunga kertas (bougainvillea) while waiting for my youngest daughter to get ready for school.

The two pots of flowers have been sitting there in the middle of the front gate for many years. One is pink in color and the other is white. But now they are all mixed, giving many shades of pink and white. And they look very elegant, cheerful, and charming in the rain.

Many flowers and leaves have dried and dropped every day.

The stalks and stems have become hardened, withstanding different weather conditions.

I love the thrill of dancing in the rain, I smiled.

It is not easy to stay strong, optimistic, lively, and ever ready when condition worsened.

But there it is, a living example standing in front of me.

Life is full of its examples to help us enjoy, face and challenge the uncertainties in life.

There is no use grumbling and groaning habitually.

It is better to treat each new day as a fresh challenge.

Come anytime, I am ready.

Friday, July 2, 2010

How To Dance In The Rain

I received this story from an email.

I believe you should know.


It was a busy morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80's arrived at the hospital to have stitches removed from his thumb.

He said he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am.

The nurse took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him.

I saw him looking at his watch and decided since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound.

On examination, it was well healed. So I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry.

The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.

I inquired as to her health.

He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer's disease.

As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late.

He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.

I was surprised, and asked him, "And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?"

He smiled.

Then he patted my hand and said, "She doesn't know me. But I still know who she is...."

I had to hold back tears as he left.

I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought, "That is the kind of love I want in my life."


True love is neither physical nor romantic.

True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.

The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have.

Life isn't about how to survive the storm.

It is about how to dance in the rain........

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Every Life Experiences Changes

Life can be dull and boring. It can easily become a routine, without focus and without goals.

Sometimes we desire to change our lives badly, and we have intentionally made some changes.

We visit places and people; we look for new and suitable environments and we build trusting relationships.

We browse the internet, trying to look for things of interests and enjoy our dream trips and wishes.

We repaint, renovate, and decorate our house, reposition and add more furniture and accessories, and do whatever possible and suitable to make our house a home.

Every life needs changes and adapt to changes.

Animals, insects, and plants adapt to changes; they survive and thrive in extreme environments.

So are we; we adapt to severe situations, though sometimes we migrate to a new and better environment.

Some of us enjoy facing a moment of defeat, failure, and humiliation. To them, it is a good experience to be able to identify and minimize our wrongs, and set our path straight to attain greater success in life. Success does not come without a defeat, and one loss does not make us a failure.

Life is forever filled with its deep and powerful personal experiences.

And the ability to endure and triumph over trials and temptations can and will bring greater joy and better fulfillment in life.

Of course, I am not saying that we must experience and bear defeats and failures all the time.

When opportunity and circumstance call, we must move and adapt to a new environment.

There are always struggles against the river of time.

But when there is a flood of change, we must swim to a new place and continue our journey.

Every life experiences changes.

It will be good if the changes are for the better, both for us and others.

Life is a passing moment in time.

We must not dwell so much on the past and be unduly worry about the future.

Life is a passing thing.

But every experience we encounter will somehow help shape us into who we will be in the future.

Isn’t it?

Thursday, June 17, 2010

And That’s Life

We never get what we want and we never want what we get,

We never have what we like and we never like what we have,

And still we live and love,

And that's life.


The best kind of people is the kind we can sit on a porch and swing with,

Never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation we've ever had.

And that's life.


It's true that we don't know what we've got until it's gone.

But it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.

And that's life.


Giving someone all our love is never an assurance that they'll love us back,

Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart,

But if it doesn't, be content it grew in ours.

And that's life.


It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone,

An hour to like someone,

And a day to love someone,

But it takes a lifetime to forget someone.

And that's life.


Don't go for looks; they can deceive,

Don't go for wealth; even that can fade away,

Go for someone who makes us smile,

Because it takes only a smile to make the darkest day seems bright.

And that's life.


May we all have

Enough happiness to make us sweet,

Enough trials to make us strong,

Enough sorrow to keep us human,

And enough hope to make us happy.


Always put ourselves in others' shoes,

If we feel that it hurts us, it probably hurts the other person too.

And that's life.


The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything,

They just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

And that's life.


Happiness lies

For those who cry,

For those who are hurt,

For those who have searched,

And for those who have tried,

Only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.

And that's life.


When we were born, we were crying,

And everyone around us was smiling,

Live our life so that when we die,

We're the one who is smiling,

And everyone around us is crying.

And that’s life.

Friday, June 11, 2010

FIFA World Cup Soccer 2010

The FIFA World Cup Soccer 2010 is on.

Millions of people around the world are anticipating how the Opening Ceremony will unfold in our eyes as the host South Africa has something for us.

The media is upbeat about it. There are wider and in-depth coverage on World Cup Football 2010 in the national newspapers, radio and TV. Then comes the advertisements with the slogans: “Every time we play, we always play the best”, “We play as a team”, “We want to make the country proud”, etc.

Everyone is excited. Some cannot sit still or stop talking. Some even boast about their dream teams. Some are getting ready to predict and to bet with money. Some are planning their schedule to watch their favorite matches or to stay through the nights.

Some family members are very worried about the gambling habits of their family members, fearing that they may borrow from loan sharks who go easy on giving loans.

For the past years, there were many sad incidents and accidents near the end of every World Cup; the media were full of suicide stories, bankruptcies, and family breakdowns.

I love the team spirit of football. I also love the individual skills. And I am looking forward to FIFA World Cup 2010.

But no betting, and no staying through the night; a delayed telecast is good enough for me.

May the best team win.

Welcome to FIFA World Cup Soccer 2010.

Friday, June 4, 2010

The Little Boy

A little boy was busy pedaling his bicycle.

It was a new bicycle that his grandfather had brought for him.

The old one was spoiled and thrown into the dustbin.


The little boy shrieked and cried for attention.

The grandparents came over to help; more advices, coaching, and encouragement.

The little boy was comforted and started to laugh away happily.


The little boy didn’t know his parents were in the process of separation and divorce.

His father was unhappy with the mother’s constant nagging, lavish spending, and not doing most of the house chores.

His mother was unhappy with the father’s preoccupation with his work and outside activities, and his recent ex-marital affair with a girl from neighboring country.


His mother had brought him and his younger sister home to her parents’ house.

Then, after a week or two, his father would come, apologized to his mother, and brought them back.

This had happened many times.

But the quarrels were getting fiercer; more throwing of things; more shouting and crying, bringing more fear and terror to the children.


Parents from both parties tried to help but failed.

They insisted on keeping the family together.

The mother demanded more conditions; the father refused to comply.

And the rift in the relationship dragged on until today.


The young boy screams and cries, again.

His younger sister is probably crying too.

More sad stories if their parents can’t agree on the relationship.

It is just not fair.

But what is fair?

Saturday, May 29, 2010

The Birds Are Flying Home

It is a blessing when family can come together for a happy time.

I, for one, was yearning for this moment.

My daughter came back at the end of April and my son last week.

Meeting them at the arrival gate made my heart leap with joy.

Now that they are home with us, we have lots of love and care for one another.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder and their presence makes the house a home for all of us. We have memorable times and amazing relationships. Each new day is a fresh beginning for us to come together.

Maybe we should make it a point to visit one another once in a while, to stop our hearts from turning cold.

Many things that we have taken for granted have suddenly become so precious to us. Now we can talk together more than before; now we can discuss more about things that we usually keep to ourselves; now quietly we help one another to do things together. Now love is no longer just a thought and a feeling; it is a decision and a commitment.

I enjoy every moment of our time, and I believe we all feel the same.

My hope is that we can stay together that way forever.

What about you?

Saturday, May 22, 2010

Now That’s Life

My annual increment falls on 1st January.

But I only received my salary adjustment letter two weeks ago.

I will receive my new salary and the accumulated increments at the end of this month.

It looks like I have many hundreds more to spend, which is good in view of the Gawai Day or Gawai Dayak, a festival celebrated by the Ibans and Bidayuh in Sarawak on 1 June every year.

I smiled as I read the letter.


I remember getting my first paycheck many years ago.

Those were the golden days when I was still a bachelor.

I had spent extravagantly, but I still had much to save.

Now looking at my salary; 6-7 times over.

But I seldom have enough, and some months I am crying for more.


Everything costs money today and everyone just knows how to spend.

We seldom have enough for everyone to spend today; we need more.

And that is the price of growing up; we have to take on heavier responsibilities, and make bigger and tougher decisions.

Some snap under the immense pressure. Some grit their teeth and continue on.

Will there be an easier way to live life?

Some said we first buy what we need and satisfy our wants later.

They called it the theory of human needs and wants.

But different people have different needs and wants; quarrels then begin and continue.

Some run in van and toil in vain all their life; there are always problems and troubles.

Some said if we can be contented with the little we have, we can enjoy our lives.

Now that’s life; it is no bad after all.