Friday, May 27, 2011

How I Wish I Could Be More Selfish

Sometimes how I wish I could be more selfish!

I remembered when I was young and stubborn, how I always got what I wanted when I was possessive and dominating enough, and how other people would submit to me and listen to what I said.

I remembered as a child, how my parents and siblings treated me well, how they always entertained me and complied to my need and want. And I remembered just how I had manipulated them to have my way.

I remembered as a teenage boy, how I had persuaded and influenced others to do what I wish, yet very rarely did I allow other people to coax, cajole or force me to do what I didn't want to do.

I remembered even as a young adult, how I had always insisted, persisted and got what I wanted.

But when I was a mature adult, married and have children, things have become so much different after that.

Gone is the time to only please myself; most of the time it is to sacrifice and live for others.

Often I find parents busy with their children. Everyday is filled with activities for the family... and there is very little time for ourselves.

Sometimes how I wish I could be more selfish!

How I wish I could have some time to do things to please myself.

Oh! How I wish...

... I have a quiet corner to do what I want.

... I have the time to meet up with families, relatives and friends.

... I can start over again my favorite hobbies and interests.

Or just some time to enjoy a moment alone......

Oh! How I wish...

... For a moment, people can please me again...

... Maybe during the coming birthday.

Sometimes how I wish...

... Our family can be more considerate.

... And would not treat us like robots.

Oh! We just need a break...

... some time.

Oh! How I wish I could be more selfish!

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Main Cause Of Concern

Unemployment and underemployment rates are more pronounced than before.

Food prices, school and medical expenses, and utility bills have escalated.

In short, the cost of living for the mass majority has become a great concern these days.

Everywhere, many people are feeling a pinch in their pockets.


The cost of fuel has also escalated dramatically.

Now, the cost of traveling has become another cause of concern.

Many still have their vehicle; some even have two or more.

And there are still those who have big SUVs and high-horsepower vehicles,

That consume lots of petrol.


Maybe it is time to have carpool.

Maybe it is time to switch to smaller and more energy efficient vehicles.

Maybe it is time to travel using public transportation like the train or the bus.

Or should we switch to motorbike, bicycle or just walk?

I don't know.


I am concerned about how to reduce the cost of traveling.

I am thinking on how to use our money more wisely.

It is really a difficult time to budget.

Many are trying hard to make their ends meet.


But it is something that we have to do on our own.

Time is hard, really hard.

And there is no one to help us.

But it is definitely not the time to give up.


There are many things that are of concern these days.

How about you?

What really matters to you?

What is your main cause of concern?

Monday, May 16, 2011

Judging People

Do you discriminate among people? Do you judge certain groups of people as useless, immature, stupid, unproductive, intolerable, worthless, or hopeless?

It is disheartening and repulsive to hear and know that some people do these things all the time to people they don't like, and they are happy and they brag about it.

I wonder why we can't be kind and loving to other people. I wonder why we need to be that rude, arrogant, or unfriendly. I wonder where is our sense of togetherness, warmth and companionship.

Do you think it is kind to say that all old people are senile and impossible to do things right?

Do you think it is nice to say all young people are thoughtless, insensitive, and selfish?

Do you think it is wise to claim that certain groups of people are especially noisy, obnoxious and rude?

Do you think it is alright to say all these people are delinquents and thieves and they're capable of the worst abuses?

Or all fat people are ugly?

All rich people are parasites?

All the black people are the same?

All the religious people are crazy?

All sexy people are prostitutes?

All homeless people are alcoholics, drug addicts, or have a mental illness?

I don't know.

I am just sick of all these statements.

And I believe they must be stopped now!

Every now and then, I would meet with people who are judgmental and love to criticize others.

I wonder why they are so abusive and how they can find joy in hurting others.

What do you think?

Do you feel nice in judging people?

Will you do that?

Monday, May 9, 2011

A Bad Day

Everyone has a bad day sometimes. When it is our turn to have a bad day, we may get very angry or frustrated. We may even pose a danger to people; there is a possibility that we may hurt or harm others when it is our bad day.

Some of us are prone to say or do things that are not edifying, and are in fact harmful to others. When there is a tendency for us to do so, it is better that we move away far from people, and find some quiet place that we can do things alone.

It will be good if we can restraint our anger or frustration when we have our bad day. Having negative thoughts and feelings would only make our day worse. It would be better if we can continue to be positive and optimistic in our outlook and behavior.

Normally, our children and our spouse would be the first ones to bear the blames when something goes wrong. It would be good if they are understanding and can quietly bear with us when it is our bad day.

Everyone would want to claim that they are perfect when they are having a bad day. It would be good if we can be more tolerant and forgiving when someone in the family is having a bad day.

Sometimes there is no proper reason as to why certain people are having a bad day. It just happens to them; they are unable to control and contain their anger and frustration; they just explode and blame everyone around but themselves.

Having a bad day is not a license for bad behavior and ill treatments. In fact, it is a dangerous time when relationships are strained, when there is tension and conflict in the home, when children can feel unsafe and as a result become more aggressive, etc.

Are you having a bad day?

What are you going to do about it?

Monday, May 2, 2011

Fast And Careful Services

In this ever changing and challenging world, people everywhere are talking about fast and flexible services. We have fast food and takeaway delivery services; we have express bus and rail services; we have instant messages and file sharing services; we have quick house sales and specialist services, etc., and the possibilities are endless.

With so many places to go and so many things to do everyday, we cannot avoid making many quick decisions. We must learn to think fast and act fast, or we may lose our opportunities.

Opportunities come and go with more speed everyday, and they are not going to wait for you and me. We just have to think and act fast, and be ready with a quick answer, or we may miss a good deal.

But quick services aren't everything. We need to provide fast and effective services, or we may still lose our potential clients. We must think carefully to what we are doing, and pay attention to every detail; correct and timely services are very important to our businesses.

Some people said speed and time are money, and customers will be happy if we can help them to save on both. But I believe also in efficient and effective services; we must not fail to impress our customers with our accurate and quality services.

Some people are good with their quick wit. I don't see anything bad in this. In fact, the ability to think and reason fast is very good, since our daily activities involve many instant and quick decisions.

But a quick service isn't necessarily a correct service, and hasty solution to a problem may not help at all. We need to act and think carefully; any wrong decision may be fatal and may cause serious and dangerous repercussions.

It is good if we can provide fast and careful services at the same time. We must try to act and think fast, and not compromise on the quality of our work done.

Personally I would prefer a careful service over a fast service. Life is just too short to make many careless and silly decisions.